Family Currency
We love our family but every family has them - for lack of finding a good fit of a word, I will call it 'currency'. It is that thing that makes you accepted, appreciated or not. Some of these labels/prejudices are short-lived , others stick life-long. It is the yard-stick of success within the family.
In some families, it is comparisons based only on good looks, being fair skinned etc. For others - it is comparisons on education, money, job, family you are married into, handsome spouses, your in-laws social status, foriegn travel, being modern(a blog topic for another day), how well one can cook, how big and aesthetic one's house is etc
We have all faced some of these prejudices at one time or another. Some of them are plain funny and we can laugh them off. Others hurtful and cruel for eg. someone being dark skinned - to judge a person just on this and ignore the rest of their personality - is cruel.
As one grows up and become older, we begin to realize how wasted these unnecessary comments, judgements are. And also how superficial. I hope we can avoid these tendencies and have the maturity to save the next generation from unnecessary pain. And can accept each of them as unique and wonderful in their own way!
On the plus side though, many of us have defied these comments and proved otherwise - be it education, career etc. So may be they were the jolt that kicked us out of out complacency!
In some families, it is comparisons based only on good looks, being fair skinned etc. For others - it is comparisons on education, money, job, family you are married into, handsome spouses, your in-laws social status, foriegn travel, being modern(a blog topic for another day), how well one can cook, how big and aesthetic one's house is etc
We have all faced some of these prejudices at one time or another. Some of them are plain funny and we can laugh them off. Others hurtful and cruel for eg. someone being dark skinned - to judge a person just on this and ignore the rest of their personality - is cruel.
As one grows up and become older, we begin to realize how wasted these unnecessary comments, judgements are. And also how superficial. I hope we can avoid these tendencies and have the maturity to save the next generation from unnecessary pain. And can accept each of them as unique and wonderful in their own way!
On the plus side though, many of us have defied these comments and proved otherwise - be it education, career etc. So may be they were the jolt that kicked us out of out complacency!